Enjoy the Journey

It doesn’t matter who you are, how popular or how hated, how rich or how poor, ultimately, every single night of your life, there is only one person you have to sleep with. You.

Your spouse can send you to the couch or kick you to the curb, but only you can make peace with yourself.

The road through life is long, if you’re lucky that is. And if you’re not so lucky and life turns out to be short, then all the more reason not to waste a single moment regretting the past or fearing the future. On any long journey there will be ups and there will be downs. Some days seem perfect, and others are disasters. But no matter how your day goes, when the dust settles and you’re alone with only your thoughts in the still of the night, are you at peace?

If not, then you are neglecting the most important relationship in your life. If you can’t find peace with yourself, then you will not likely find peace with anyone. Sure, there will be those who are peaceful with you… but you know in your heart that they only make peace because they are pacifists. So you discount them, you don’t respect them, and their peace, being a product or their weakness and not of your merit, means little to you.

So then, are you happy to be you? Would you truly be a different person? Are you happy with your life?

Here’s a secret: if you are satisfied with your life, satisfied with who you are and where you are going, then you don’t have to get to where you strive to be to enjoy life.

And here’s an even bigger secret: Only you can let yourself be happy. Only you can let yourself enjoy life. Unless you are jailed for a crime you didn’t commit, and really even then too, so I guess that means there really are no excuses at all. Only you have the choice to enjoy yourself. Nobody can make that choice for you, and nobody can take it away from you. They can try, oh how you can bet they’ll try. Some people will do anything and everything in their power to make you miserable. But ultimately, they can only make you miserable if you let them.

So what’s the point? The point is simple. If you haven’t yet been able to get right with yourself, now is the time to step up and do it. And if you find yourself at peace with who you are, then it’s time to take back your own happiness, your own satisfaction, your own pleasure on this long road that you travel.

It’s time for you to go in peace. It’s time for us all to go in peace.

Yes you! Put down that book you are about to buy. Drop those self books out of your
Amazon shopping cart. And listen up.

I bet you already have more than enough self help on your bookshelf to last you a lifetime. Yet there you are still looking to buy more. Why is that?

I’ll tell you why… It’s because as a culture we are conditioned to buy solutions to our problems. Unfortunately, however, the solutions to some problems can’t be bought. The only way for you to get where you want to be in life is to put the principles you find in those books into practice.

And that means stop buying new self help books and focus yourself on implementing the ones you already have. You don’t need to do more reading, what you need is to do more practicing.

So how should you proceed? Well there are many good practice guides available, both online and in your bookstore. OK, so maybe you can buy one more self-help book, but this time, make sure the book has a concrete action plan that you can implement in your life.

Or, you can join my mailing list (it’s over there on the right –>) , and in a few months you’ll be able to participate in my program, “52 Weeks to Success, Love and Happiness.” Just so you know, the program will be free, at least for a while. So you can relax. Your wallet is safe here.

Unlike most online stuff where people just pitch you with some hyped up crap to buy some some crappy half baked e-book and then the forget about you, this program makes a commitment to engage you, work with you, and support your efforts for a full year. It guides you and measures your progress as you put those self help theories, tips, mantras and bromides to actual use in your actual life, where you will get actual results.

This is a life changing program because it enables you to change the way you live your life.

The program will be run in groups where you can discuss the material, but more importantly you can also discuss the challenges you encounter in applying the program in your life in a confidential, supporting environment. It’s an ongoing, rich, dynamic, interactive processs of building the skills you need in to apply any self help lessons in your life.

So put down that self help book, and get started practicing the skills you need to change your life. Start a personal enrichment program today and start making actual changes in your life.

“Life is unfair.” I’ve yet to find a single person who will debate this. We struggle all our lives to be happy and in the end we die. It’s supremely unfair! The person who said “Life’s a bitch and then you die!” sure hit that particular nail square on the head. Most people seem to follow the same haphazard path of unhappiness in life.

For almost everyone, life is just one endless series of grim problems. You work hard to achieve something, and the world conspires against you, casting your plans and dreams and hard work into a violent of despair and doubt. When that crisis gets resolved, another more serious one arises that makes all the rest look trifling in comparison! It’s just one thing after another.

Are you nodding your head?

You aren’t the only one. We live in the present but we worry about the future. All through our lives, we worry about financial security for our retirement, a permanent home over our heads, food for the future and money to support our children. It’s an endless race to reach something that may or may not even be there for us! Think about it. Is there any guarantee that you will live to retirement? We take it for granted that slaving right now will allow us to enjoy our money in the future. But what is the guarantee that you will live to enjoy it? We just don’t have any other way to live our lives. Right?

Stop nodding your head now.

I once met a person who was really happy all the time. She wasn’t rich… quite the opposite in fact. She lived in a rented house and her family of five scraped by on her husband’s income which was paltry. But SHE WAS HAPPY! How could this be possible? I spent an entire week wondering about this before I could gather up enough courage to ask her about it. And the answer stupefied me!

She said, “I have a husband who loves me, children who are really great and help out in any way possible, a home and a happy family! What more could I want?”

What more could she want??!?!

Was she blind? Did she not have eyes? Just look around you and you will see no shortage of what more can you want. How could she not want what everyone could plainly see that she didn’t have? What was the difference between her and me? The answer, when it finally arrived, was jarring to my senses and to my sensibilities… What she had was a simple joy in the present and what she had right then.

I realized that this is what we all want and strive for. Happiness and joy. But in our stressed out lifestyle, we think we are working for happiness and joy in the hypothetical future we are creating. We want to be happy but we assume that slaving miserably today for financial security, educationally and emotionally secure children and a permanent home will create happiness for us in the future. But that is not true and deep down you and I already know it. If you can’t find that joy and happiness today then you won’t find it tomorrow either.

It’s not easy to aim for the present and to enjoy it completely… I know that… I find it difficult too. Find joy in your spouse, your children and what you have at present. Take the time to slow down, and care for yourself. Take a day off from work; the world will not fall apart if you don’t go to the office for a day. Walk in the world and observe and enjoy. You already have what you need to make you happy. You just haven’t noticed it yet.

PS. If you have trouble finding the joy that she has, the joy that is your birthright to have every single day of your life, you should consider trying a life enrichment program.