Sunday, April 18th, 2010 | Author:
Don't control you emotions

Don't control you emotions

In Part 1 of the “Do NOT Control Your Emotions” series we discussed the critical need to leave your emotions fully connected because they serve as your instrument panel on the journey of life.

In Part 2 of the “Do NOT Control Your Emotions” series, we discussed how in order to conduct yourself as a productive member of a civil society without controlling your emotions, the key is to use your emotions to direct your actions while staying calm and in control during flight.

And now in Part 3, we continue with how to use your emotions to change your life.

There a challenging difference between mechanical instruments on vehicles and the instrumentation that comes installed on people.  The mechanical instruments are well documented with known tolerances and an assurance of accuracy, while our emotions sometimes appear wildly inaccurate (almost to the point of seeming random at times) and there is no owner’s manual to refer to that can explain what a particular emotion means.  And no two people work exactly the same so you can’t even borrow someone else’s manual.

But this doesn’t mean that you should ignore or disconnect your emotions.  Rather, it means that you should work to learn what they mean and how accurate they are (documenting your findings for future reference).  Then you can use that knowledge to both improve the accuracy of what they are telling you and also to sharpen your “piloting skills” based on this improved visibility into yourself and your environment.

If you work to understand, improve, and master the use of your emotions you will develop a big advantage in the emotional dogfight called life.  It will be like bringing night vision goggles on patrol in a remote village. You will have developed the advantage of seeing into the blackness of night which others find impenetrable.

So moving from the conceptual to the practical, your goal is to learn to understand your emotions and what they are telling you about yourself, about your world, and about the real world around you, and then to use them to evolve your world so that your emotions and feelings can accurately and reliably guide your actions.

In order to develop accurate, reliable emotions, you have to methodically evaluate the accuracy and validity of your emotional readings.  When you encounter less than perfect emotional readings, then you undertake to reconcile your emotional reading with reality, and then train a more accurate response into your emotions.

This may sound incredibly complicated, but it is actually something that that you learn step-by-step, focusing on one relatively simple task at a time. In more or less the same way that a martial arts student advances through several belt levels to become a black belt, you can advance step by step, one skill at a time, to become an emotional black belt.

The ultimate goal of a pilot is to connect as many high quality, accurate instruments that give meaningful input as possible.  The ultimate goal in life is to do the same with your emotions.  By connecting several properly functioning emotional instruments, you will have be able to pilot your life towards the goals that really matter to you the most, and you will be able to maintain nice smooth flight conditions along the way.

The 52 Week Program focuses on building the skills needed to fine tune your emotional indicators for accuracy and to master their use to achieve happiness and success in life.

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9 Responses

  1. 1
    Sabrina Blevans 

    Hey very nice blog!!

  2. It sounds like you’re creating problems yourself by trying to solve this issue instead of looking at why their is a problem in the first place.

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    Mary Kay 

    Well done. We must go throgh our emotions, (feelings) in order to understand ourselves better and process what we are feeling. The key to understanding this is truly your feelings. When you enter this process, you undertake to clear away all the repressions and blocks that you have put in place since childhood.

    If, for example, you are suddenly feeling overwhelmed by feelings and energies, and this makes you anxious and depressed, ask yourself why you should feel this way? Why not feel elated and challenged? or inspired and happy? For, as science will tell you, feelings are nothing more than electro-magnetic energy that we translate in various ways according to OUR EXPERIENCE OF THAT FREQUENCY.

    In the modern world, so few of us have habits of creativity and self-expression.

    How many of us keep a journal, write down our feelings, write poems, paint pictures, take photographs, or in any way record the adventure of life. This is a way of also processing feelings.

    Sincerely,

    Mary Kay LCSW Ph.D

  4. 4
    mutuelle 

    Merci pour ce post intéressant. si vous continuer ainsi je vais devenir un lecteur fidéle

  5. 5
    HALEM 

    Well done.

  6. 6
    kevin 

    The recognition of our emotion is very important to be better identity in our life. For instance,if we control ourselves on the nervious or panic condition, we will be able to prevent ourselves from petrifying. Thus, we will be able to accomplish to great feat. However, it is almost impossible to aware emotion precisely. That is because the emotion is too capricious to predict

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    Surface45@yahoo.com 

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    Candie Athearn 

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    Buy TurboFire 

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