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Sunday, April 18th, 2010 | Author:
Don't control you emotions

Don't control you emotions

In Part 1 of the “Do NOT Control Your Emotions” series we discussed the critical need to leave your emotions fully connected because they serve as your instrument panel on the journey of life.

In Part 2 of the “Do NOT Control Your Emotions” series, we discussed how in order to conduct yourself as a productive member of a civil society without controlling your emotions, the key is to use your emotions to direct your actions while staying calm and in control during flight.

And now in Part 3, we continue with how to use your emotions to change your life.

There a challenging difference between mechanical instruments on vehicles and the instrumentation that comes installed on people.  The mechanical instruments are well documented with known tolerances and an assurance of accuracy, while our emotions sometimes appear wildly inaccurate (almost to the point of seeming random at times) and there is no owner’s manual to refer to that can explain what a particular emotion means.  And no two people work exactly the same so you can’t even borrow someone else’s manual.

But this doesn’t mean that you should ignore or disconnect your emotions.  Rather, it means that you should work to learn what they mean and how accurate they are (documenting your findings for future reference).  Then you can use that knowledge to both improve the accuracy of what they are telling you and also to sharpen your “piloting skills” based on this improved visibility into yourself and your environment.

If you work to understand, improve, and master the use of your emotions you will develop a big advantage in the emotional dogfight called life.  It will be like bringing night vision goggles on patrol in a remote village. You will have developed the advantage of seeing into the blackness of night which others find impenetrable.

So moving from the conceptual to the practical, your goal is to learn to understand your emotions and what they are telling you about yourself, about your world, and about the real world around you, and then to use them to evolve your world so that your emotions and feelings can accurately and reliably guide your actions.

In order to develop accurate, reliable emotions, you have to methodically evaluate the accuracy and validity of your emotional readings.  When you encounter less than perfect emotional readings, then you undertake to reconcile your emotional reading with reality, and then train a more accurate response into your emotions.

This may sound incredibly complicated, but it is actually something that that you learn step-by-step, focusing on one relatively simple task at a time. In more or less the same way that a martial arts student advances through several belt levels to become a black belt, you can advance step by step, one skill at a time, to become an emotional black belt.

The ultimate goal of a pilot is to connect as many high quality, accurate instruments that give meaningful input as possible.  The ultimate goal in life is to do the same with your emotions.  By connecting several properly functioning emotional instruments, you will have be able to pilot your life towards the goals that really matter to you the most, and you will be able to maintain nice smooth flight conditions along the way.

The 52 Week Program focuses on building the skills needed to fine tune your emotional indicators for accuracy and to master their use to achieve happiness and success in life.

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Friday, April 02nd, 2010 | Author:
confidently controlling your reactions

confidently controlling your reactions

Ok, so in Part 1 of the “Do NOT Control Your Emotions” series we discussed the critical need to leave your emotions fully connected because they serve as your instrument panel on the journey of life.  But if you aren’t going to control your emotions, how then can you possibly hope to get along with people and conduct yourself as a productive member of a civil society?

The key is to use your emotions to direct your actions while staying calm and in control during flight. If a pilot flew a plane the way most of us use our emotions it would be one jarring, frightening flight full of airsick passengers.  OMG!  We’re tilting left, FULL RIGHT RUDDER!  OH NO! We’re losing speed! FULL THROTTLE! CRAP, we’re spinning right, FULL LEFT RUDDER!

The problem is not in the instruments, the problem is that the pilot is treating every little input as a full on emergency, and applying maximum corrections to every variance.  Nobody wants to fly in a plane with a hamfisted captain.  Flying a plane requires careful consideration of the instruments, good judgment, and subtle application of control.

Well, guess what.  Nobody wants to fly through life with someone who over reacts to their emotions.  And as we said before, you shouldn’t turn the emotions off because nobody wants to fly with a pilot who’s likely to fly directly into a mountain either.

So what should you do?

The answer is the same as for a commercial pilot:  You should pay full attention to your emotions as they are the indicator of the conditions you are flying through.  But you have to learn to interpret them carefully in order to understand the true meaning behind them.  Then you have to exercise good judgment in your chosen actions.  And you should develop subtle control and finesse in implementing your chosen actions.

Consider your emotions carefully to learn what they are telling you

Every time you have an emotional reaction to something, positive or negative, it is telling you something about yourself and the world around you.  The trick is to figure out just what it is telling you, so you can take appropriate action.

If you find that your emotions are not giving you an accurate picture of reality, then you need to develop and evolve your emotional instruments until they are giving you a reasonably accurate picture of reality.

This is done with behaviorist methods, i.e. by practice and repetition.

Developing good judgment in responding to emotions

Once you have trained your emotional responses to give you valuable accurate information about the world around you, you then have to develop good judgment in choosing the best actions to take based on your accurate perception of events.

This required not only an accurate version of what you know, but also an accurate version of what you don’t know, of what context may be missing, of what assumptions you are making, of the relevance that the missing items may have on your interpretation, and the likelihood that the information you do have is both complete and definitive.

This judgment is developed by using your emotional reactions as trigger points to initiate closer examinations of the key issues involved in choosing a course of action.

Developing subtlety and finesse in taking action

Once you have chosen a reasonable course of action, you have to develop subtlety and finesse in being able to implement the actions you have chosen.  This includes the ability to communicate clearly, effectively, and sometimes persuasively, while still adhering to principles and beliefs by which you guide your life.

This is accomplished by practicing the specific skills that you value the most over and over until you become quite good at them.

These three concepts may seem vague and not very helpful, but the 52 Week Program teaches specifically how to achieve them, and guides you through exercises to reinforce these critical skills.

Stay Tuned for Part 3, Changing your Emotional Responses.

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Wednesday, March 24th, 2010 | Author:
Controlling Emotions

Controlling Emotions

And yes, before we get started, I really do mean it… do not try to control your emotions or your feelings. Learn to use them instead.

Little kids are told to control their emotions over and over again. This gets taught early and reinforced throughout life. But it turns out that the lesson is not quite right. You should not be controlling your emotions. You should be controlling your actions and reactions to your emotions.

Your emotions are like the instruments on your car. Controlling your emotions is like controlling the speedometer on your car so it says exactly what speed you want regardless of how fast the car is really going. When you drive you don’t control the speedometer, you control the speed of the vehicle using the speedometer as a guide.

So why would you expect the vehicle of yourself to work any different? You need your emotions, your instruments, and you need them to be working as accurately and with as much precision as possible.

An unfortunate majority of the people in the world spend their entire life working to control their speedometers rather than their actual speed. It happens with emotions, it happens in business, it happens in politics… it is just a part of our human nature. Unfortunately, the only possible outcome of controlling your instruments instead of using them to control your vehicle is that you end up flying blind. You are unable to tell where the you are, how fast you’re moving and where you’re heading. You may very well slam into a mountain, the ground or any number of other things. Turn off or reduce the accuracy of your instruments at your own peril.

OK, so you leave the speedometer connected, but maybe you don’t like risk so you decide to just drive 40 on the freeway so you can easily stay safe. This almost works, but easy safety is seldom as safe as it appears. In this case, going 40 on the freeway to create safety from getting a ticket and safety from losing control of your own car also creates a new risk, namely that someone else will crash into you as they are not expecting you to be going 40 on a freeway.

In the same way as creating safety in one area often also creates a consequent risk in another, disconnecting your emotions also creates a consequent risk. The unintended consequence of disconnecting your life instruments, your emotions, is that you will be living an emotionally blind life, and you will have little chance of ever creating the only thing you really want. You will have little chance of ever finding true happiness and satisfaction in life.

Imagine a video game: You are a pilot flying a plane in a race or a battle across uneven terrain with obstacles such as trees, buildings, mountains, and canyons.

In this game, your engine makes more power the closer you are to the ground, and less power the higher you are. Therefore you can go faster near the ground and the obstacles, but slower if you’re up high away from the obstacles. But the lower you fly, the less time you have to react to the obstacles and terrain. Also, the faster you go, this problem is increased. But to do your best in the game, you have fly as low and as fast as you can.

Now imagine it is foggy out, and you have only your instruments to guide you.

This is a pretty good analogy for how we live our lives. We are the pilots. The obstacles and the terrain represent our interactions with other people. Our lifelong pursuit of happiness, success, and love is the race. And our emotions are the only instruments available to guide us through the fog.

While you can fly carefree and safe at 30,000 ft, doing so will leave your engine weak, and you will miss out on any chance of performing well. To follow the analogy, you can keep a safe emotional distance, but doing so will dilute your interactions with people.

You can detach yourself from your emotions, turn them off, decrease their accuracy, or simply ignore them. But doing so has dire consequences, as your emotions are the only instruments you have by which you can measure your happiness, stress, loss, sadness, joy, etc.

Controlling your emotions rather than controlling your reactions to your emotions is a lot like controlling the altimeter of the airplane rather than using what the altimeter is trying to tell you in order to keep from crashing into the ground.

Rather than controlling your emotions, work to improve the ACCURACY of your emotions and to control your REACTIONS to your emotions.

Stay Tuned for Part 2, Redirecting your reactions to your emotions.  (Part 2 is now available).

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Saturday, March 13th, 2010 | Author:


It is actually very simple:  Leadership is executive management, or management of management.  Leadership is the executive task, while management is the administrative task.  To illustrate with an analogy:  Management is administering Execution as in blocking and tackling, while Leadership is Building the Team and Developing the Play Book.

Basically, management is all the things you need to administer to keep a business running.  It is organizing processes, looking after finances, minimizing risks, administering details, and handling the day to day operations and operational difficulties.  Management is everything you absolutely need to make a business operate.  Without good management, a business will stumble around drunkenly, fall down from time to time, and possibly even break its neck.  With good management a company will survive.  Leadership is the management of that management process.  In that absence of good management, leadership builds it.

Then building on top of good management, leadership adds team building (at all levels of an organization), vision, and executive direction.

This is a simple concept, but for a variety of reasons, the whole world wants to make it seem complicated.

For one thing:  Business leadership is not a quality that is limited to only executive management

The qualities of leadership don’t start in the executive office.  Rather they start with individuals and how they approach everyday life.  You don’t have to be in business to be a leader.  And you can’t be an effective leader of others unless you are an effective leader of yourself.  The show “Undercover Boss” recently had Larry O’Donnell working side by side with the rank and file employees.  Without going into all the details, you can observe self leadership in the one very self directed, self motivated, porta-pot cleaning employee.  You can bet that if you promote him to the first level of management that he would understand how to build the skills and attitude that the workers need to be successful.

For another thing:  Leadership is not limited to business management

Even someone who is self employed with no employees still has need of leadership. The army of one still has to figure out what battles to fight, where to be and when to be there, what skills are the most critical ones to develop, and on and on and on.  The leadership task of team building doesn’t fall away just because you have a team of one.  In fact, the opposite is true:  It is more important than ever that you figure out how to invest in the human resources of your army of one, because there is nobody else around to do it!  Granted your team building is easier without the personality issues in a team of many, but the requirement itself still exists.

Yet one more thing:  We don’t have a set of certified credentials to qualify someone as a leader

Unfortunately, we have a long and rich history of teaching management as business administration and not as leadership.  This has lead to a large population of credentialed professionals who consider themselves leaders, but who have actually had very little leadership focus in their education and experience.  We don’t have an army of credentialed professionals running around with MBL (Masters of Business Leadership) degrees.  We have an army of credentialed business administration professionals instead.

Combine this with the fact that actual leadership training is a fragmented discipline with thousands of self certified experts (not to label them as arrogant, it’s just that there is no other kind of certification!) and each expert is teaching their own personal brand, flavor, and subset of the subject.  You have leadership experts coming from a religious framework.  You have leadership experts teaching from a sports perspective.   You have military leaders, leaders who have been successful in business, and on and on.  The only thing you don’t have is any common curriculum that is accredited for making one a leader!

So the credentialed professional managers, the MBAs, really don’t even have a clear program for leadership.  Plus, the lack of leadership curriculum means that the MBA certification is still the highest available.  They are left with no clear path to follow, and no clear indication of whether they are managers or leaders.  So of course they declare themselves leaders.

Finally:  Leadership is separating the executive task from the administrative task

But what is the Executive task and how does it differ from the Administrative task?

The executive task can best be described as fixing an entire type of problem, rather than fixing the individual problem.  This is not to say that administrators and managers shouldn’t be expected to look for, recognize, and correct the type of problem.  Leadership can and should be encouraged, taught, and rewarded in every single member of a team, from top to bottom.

Back to the Waste Management example, Larry O’Donnell is showing great potential as a leader.  However, is he fixing the type of problem or is he fixing the specific problem?  Assuming the entire exercise isn’t just a PR ploy, let’s consider a comment from the CBS website about his episode of the show.

kellibrooke noted: Anyone see a problem with how he handled Jaclyn’s situation? Her position required way too much work and she didn’t make enough money to keep her home. So… instead of realizing that her current job didn’t pay enough for all the work she did… He made her into one of him. Put her on salary, made her a management employee. That’s awesome for her… but what about her ‘replacement’ that she is supposed to hire? That person will be in the same boat as Jaclyn was. I’m happy for Jaclyn but the real issue is the job itself and the fact that people can’t support their families and keep their homes based on the wages he’s handing out to non-management employees. She’ll now be eligible for bonuses….what about the people he saw picking up trash and cleaning the johns….where are their bonuses??

Herein lies the real question:  Is Larry O’Donnell a great leader?  Or is he a great administrator?  He certainly fixed the individual problem.  Time will tell if he can address the type of problem as a whole.

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Monday, February 08th, 2010 | Author:
Resisting Peer Pressure

Resisting Peer Pressure

Of course, many will quickly respond that no, you should always tell the truth. But just as quick to respond are the legions of people that would lie just a little bit in order to spare someone’s feelings.

While the battle between should and shouldn’t will continue to rage for future generations, we can probably all agree that even if you should in theory always tell the truth, not every battle need be fought today. As Gramma used to say: discretion is the better part of valor.

While we (in the US) use the word elegant as a proxy for glamorous, the French use it to indicate a developed social grace, what we would call a certain je ne sais quoi. Here in America we don’t really have a common word, or even a common phrase that is used for this quality. Which is probably why we use the French term for “duh, I dunno” to describe it.

While I can say “social grace” and you probably get some idea what I mean, it’s not a concept frequently discussed or very well defined in our culture. I’m not sure if our lack of a word reflects our lack of value for social grace in general, or if our lack of social grace reflects our lack of a word and a national dialog on the matter. Regardless, it is an often overlooked quality and the essential ingredient in any recipe for maintaining your integrity and staying true to your beliefs. It is that elegant middle ground between tactless and spineless that so few seem to master.

Yet, even without a clearly defined concept, each of us knows at least one person that somehow seems to float above the petty and the meaningless, radiating an aura of grace, blending connectedness, and tact, while never straying far from their core beliefs. When in doubt, imagine what this person would do. Imagine how they would handle the situation that you are facing.

So getting back to our original question, yes, you should tell truth but yes you should also be as respectful as possible and spare the feelings of others from unnecessary bruising. There are many techniques you can develop that will help you avoid having to lie while still being respectful and elegant.

One valuable technique is to reverse a request for affirmation with a gently probing (yet sensitive) question. For example, a close friend asks you “was I wrong to bla bla” and you feel compelled to say “oh no, of course not” even though you know your friend was in the wrong. The challenge here is to be honest while not undermining either your friend or your friendship. By reversing with a question, you can disagree gently, and give your friend a chance to explore their error. For example, you could say “I dunno, I know you’re sensitive to bla bla’s games… but did it require that strong of a response?” Here you are reaffirming your friend’s source of offense, while neither supporting nor rejecting the validity of what was done.

The signal that you should have picked up on above was when you felt compelled. That pressure, whether a friend seeking affirmation or peer pressure in a group, is a sure sign than your integrity is about to be compromised. Often the same approach can be applied successfully. Namely, agree with the feelings and question without quite disagreeing with the actions.

Sometimes an alternative could be to agree with the actions reluctantly, while pointing out that there may be other points of view. Or you could point out that if the roles were reversed, you doubt that the opinions would stay the same. And if pointing it out seems a little strong, you could ask if rather than state that.

While there are countless techniques you can employ to deflect the pressure to lie, they all have one thing in common: they all can be employed to preserve your integrity in the face of a complex reality.

Monday, February 01st, 2010 | Author:
You gotta start wherever you are...

You gotta start wherever you are...

Well, it’s starting to come together in detail now… In a previous post (link), I discussed my goals for the program itself, and now I can report on the progress so far.

From a recent comment:

The fact is that people, to be happy, need to understand and accept who they ARE first, and then try to move this state to something compatible. To be a star you don’t have to sell your soul. Helping people, making other persons happy and successful is an alternate way.

Also, don’t be mad at me, but I find it kind of funny that you tell people self help books are not the solution, yet at the same time you plan for one, somehow…

The good news is that he’s right on both counts. He’s exactly on point.

First, I’m not developing a self help book. While it turns out that while I can knock out a killer article, I run out of creativity and charisma way short of a full chapter, let alone book. I’ve tried a few times over the years to take my model of the psyche and turn it into something people can use. Quite frankly, I’ve given up.

Second, my model of the psyche is built on acceptance of who you are today, then working to become who you want to be tomorrow. This core concept that I invented (hahaha) is thousands of years old…. it’s the concept of zen surrender.

Along the way, I’ve done a lot of research and reading and there are three books that stand head and shoulders above the rest. These authors have said what I was trying to say better than I could ever hope to say it myself. Sure, each of them is presenting only a part of what I feel should be the whole, but they overlap each other in material while complementing each other in point of view. Each has a lot to offer to anyone, and taken together they develop a unique synergy, each one building on and contributing to the others.

But as I handed out these books and encouraged people to read them, I had the same experience over and over. People take these magic books, they even read them from cover to cover…. and yet their life doesn’t really improve.

How can this be possible? How? It’s all right there!! Don’t you see?

And yes, they all see. Everyone sees. Everyone understands. They can repeat the material back to me. And yet they remain powerless to take action, to do in their own lives!

So where does that power come from and how can I unlock that power inside them? It comes from doing. What? Hey Einstein, we have a chicken and egg problem here. How can I do if I don’t know how to do?

Well the answer is that you give up your pride, set aside your expectation of doing good… and just do with whatever ability you have today. And you suck at it. But you keep doing it. And then one day you notice HEY! I suck slightly less at this than I did before! This is progress! And you keep at it. Little by little you keep at it.

I often use the analogy of hitting a baseball. You can read all about it, read 10 or 20 or even 30 books about hitting a baseball. Boy, you’ll know everything there is to know about hitting a baseball, and from every possible point of view. But your body on the other hand will have never swung a bat. It will have no muscle memory, no skills, no strength. You will be utterly and completely powerless to unlock this phenomenal power hitting baseball slugging knowledge you have inside you.

See the parallel?

Well we learn these so called life skills the same way we learn to swing a bat. By trial and error. Lots of trials and lots of errors. And a few hits in there along the way. Except a true zen master bats probably bats around .950 in the emotional big league. Me? I’m still working my way up through the minors.

Anyhow, the program takes the work of three great masters, and breaks it down into step by step lessons. The same way you learn to ski, or snowboard, or ride a bike, or swim, or knit, or cook, or really pretty much anything you’ve learned in life.

We start with the fundamentals, simple drills and exercises that seem kinda silly at first. Like stepping into a pitch that’s not even there, and swinging a bat you’re not even holding. And we do them over and over and over. And feel silly as *bleep* while doing them. And then we move on to something a little more advanced, but probably just a silly.

Then one day, we get some sign of progress, some clear sign of empowerment and improvement. That’s when we stop feeling silly and we can fully buy in. And we continue, each drill, each exercise building fundamental skills that we need, then we start putting them together in series and in combination. Follow the ball with your eyes, step into the ball, swing through with your head down, CRACK! follow through fully, and step out smoothly into your run to first base. All smooth, all fluid, all practiced a million times.

... To get to where you want to be.

... To get to where you want to be.

This is our emotional at bat… it all starts to come together, and we start getting base hits, doubles. One day we were thrilled to just make contact with the ball. Now we sometimes smack one over the fence. We can make contact on demand, so we can call a few plays… hit and run, sacrifice fly, and so on.

We can’t imagine how this could ever have been hard! We have a hard time even remembering our first feeble attempts at swinging the bat!

Well here’s a big juicy secret: While very few of us can ever play major league baseball… almost every single one of us has the capacity to step up to the emotional big league. We can all be successful. We can all be happy. We can all find the love of life and the love in life that we deserve.

And that’s what the program is about.

I have all of the units defined, and 35 of them drafted. Of course, writing them down is quick… then writing them down again so they make sense to anyone but me is painfully slow. But it’s looking good for an early spring launch!

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Monday, January 25th, 2010 | Author:
Enjoy the Journey

Enjoy the Journey

It doesn’t matter who you are, how popular or how hated, how rich or how poor, ultimately, every single night of your life, there is only one person you have to sleep with. You.

Your spouse can send you to the couch or kick you to the curb, but only you can make peace with yourself.

The road through life is long, if you’re lucky that is. And if you’re not so lucky and life turns out to be short, then all the more reason not to waste a single moment regretting the past or fearing the future. On any long journey there will be ups and there will be downs. Some days seem perfect, and others are disasters. But no matter how your day goes, when the dust settles and you’re alone with only your thoughts in the still of the night, are you at peace?

If not, then you are neglecting the most important relationship in your life. If you can’t find peace with yourself, then you will not likely find peace with anyone. Sure, there will be those who are peaceful with you… but you know in your heart that they only make peace because they are pacifists. So you discount them, you don’t respect them, and their peace, being a product or their weakness and not of your merit, means little to you.

So then, are you happy to be you? Would you truly be a different person? Are you happy with your life?

Here’s a secret: if you are satisfied with your life, satisfied with who you are and where you are going, then you don’t have to get to where you strive to be to enjoy life.

And here’s an even bigger secret: Only you can let yourself be happy. Only you can let yourself enjoy life. Unless you are jailed for a crime you didn’t commit, and really even then too, so I guess that means there really are no excuses at all. Only you have the choice to enjoy yourself. Nobody can make that choice for you, and nobody can take it away from you. They can try, oh how you can bet they’ll try. Some people will do anything and everything in their power to make you miserable. But ultimately, they can only make you miserable if you let them.

So what’s the point? The point is simple. If you haven’t yet been able to get right with yourself, now is the time to step up and do it. And if you find yourself at peace with who you are, then it’s time to take back your own happiness, your own satisfaction, your own pleasure on this long road that you travel.

It’s time for you to go in peace. It’s time for us all to go in peace.

Tuesday, January 19th, 2010 | Author:

Yes you! Put down that book you are about to buy. Drop those self books out of your
Amazon shopping cart. And listen up.

I bet you already have more than enough self help on your bookshelf to last you a lifetime. Yet there you are still looking to buy more. Why is that?

I’ll tell you why… It’s because as a culture we are conditioned to buy solutions to our problems. Unfortunately, however, the solutions to some problems can’t be bought. The only way for you to get where you want to be in life is to put the principles you find in those books into practice.

And that means stop buying new self help books and focus yourself on implementing the ones you already have. You don’t need to do more reading, what you need is to do more practicing.

So how should you proceed? Well there are many good practice guides available, both online and in your bookstore. OK, so maybe you can buy one more self-help book, but this time, make sure the book has a concrete action plan that you can implement in your life.

Or, you can join my mailing list (it’s over there on the right –>) , and in a few months you’ll be able to participate in my program, “52 Weeks to Success, Love and Happiness.” Just so you know, the program will be free, at least for a while. So you can relax. Your wallet is safe here.

Unlike most online stuff where people just pitch you with some hyped up crap to buy some some crappy half baked e-book and then the forget about you, this program makes a commitment to engage you, work with you, and support your efforts for a full year. It guides you and measures your progress as you put those self help theories, tips, mantras and bromides to actual use in your actual life, where you will get actual results.

This is a life changing program because it enables you to change the way you live your life.

The program will be run in groups where you can discuss the material, but more importantly you can also discuss the challenges you encounter in applying the program in your life in a confidential, supporting environment. It’s an ongoing, rich, dynamic, interactive processs of building the skills you need in to apply any self help lessons in your life.

So put down that self help book, and get started practicing the skills you need to change your life. Start a personal enrichment program today and start making actual changes in your life.

Friday, December 25th, 2009 | Author:
Oscar says Merry Christmas

Oscar says Merry Christmas

I’m working on the program tonight, and wanted to take a moment to wish everyone the best possible holiday season. Let’s all enjoy the holidays and hit 2010 with a fresh new attitude.

A holiday picture of Oscar the wonder dummy seemed to be in order.

Thursday, December 17th, 2009 | Author:

OK, some details are starting to come together. The 52 week program will be a “practice” program, not a study program.

The material is relatively simple in concept. You can read all of it in under a week. You can study it easily. Yet while reading and studying the material can be helpful, it usually does not produce dramatic life changing results by itself.

To fully realize the benefits the material has to offer, you have to dedicate yourself to the practice of self improvement. And that’s what this program is: A 52 week practice.

Each week there will be an exercise, and every day of that week you focus on and work on that exercise. So for 1 full year, you will be working on some simple exercise or another every single day.

And that is how you achieve dramatic results in your life.

Stay tuned. More details to follow.
John-Paul Miller